For anyone who’s been looking for a good reason to #treatyoself, consider this: You probably don't do it often enough, and putting "me time" on the back burner is a big part of why we can all feel run-down, frenzied, and overwhelmed. Self-care, to the rescue!
What's the Deal?
Often-ignored but totally necessary, self-care is any action or behavior that helps us (like increasing our risk for heart problems due to excess stress, for example) and benefits us by improving our mental and physical health through better self-esteem, less stress, and overall wellbeing. These behaviors help in an increasingly over-stimulating world. Self-care makes up an essential part of a healthy lifestyle that keeps us healthy, happy, and more in-tune with our minds and bodies.
The problem is, we probably aren't doing enough of it.
Experts suggest we neglect self-care because it can be and manage stress in better ways. Self-care is also sometimes and lazy, over-indulgent behavior. This mentality might make us feel guilty for thinking we need to take a break from our lives to do something that, simply put, makes us feel better. But ignoring our needs has some dangerous side effects: It makes us and can make existing conditions worse—not to mention the emotional toll of never taking a break.
That's why taking the time to check in with your mind and body isn't a bad thing. In fact, the pursuit of health and happiness is far from selfish. When we take good care of ourselves, we're likely to see an improvement in many aspects of our lives, including our physical health, relationships, and . Plus, by making the choice to practice self-care, we have a tendency to —proving its importance for not just ourselves, but the world around us.
Your Action Plan
Since self-care is a very individual thing, there's no set prescription for how or when to do it. That said, taking at least 20 minutes a day to do something for ourselves, which seems pretty darn reasonable to us. Lost for ideas? Don't fret. We've rounded up some sweet strategies that'll help slash stress, boost happiness, and improve total health. Practice any of these self-care behaviors (or any others that occur to you!) —whatever feels best to you.
1. Get outside.
Ditching the comfort of your home is a great way to improve mental and physical health. Similar to meditation, spending time out of doors benefits the brain. Other that being outside in nature also makes us feel more alive. Even living in an (i.e. parks and gardens) is associated with greater life satisfaction and less mental distress.
2. Try an outdoor workout.
Consider taking your sweat session into nature, too. Research shows that working out in the Great Outdoors boosts mental health, and may decrease tension, anger, and depression . Barton, J. and Pretty, J. Interdisciplinary Centre for Environment and Society, Department of Biological Sciences, University of Essex. Environmental Science and Technology, 2010 May 15;44(10):3947-55 . Thompson Coon, J., Boddy, K., Stein, K., et al. PenCLAHRC, Peninsula College of Medicine and Dentistry, University of Exeter. Environmental Science and Technology, 2011 Mar 1;45(5):1761-72.
3. Pay it forward.
By helping others, we actually help ourselves, too. Lending a hand not only boosts mental health, but may also lead to a longer life . Jenkinson, CE, Dickens, AP, Jones, K., et al. Primary Care, University of Exeter Medical School. BMC Public Health, 2013 Aug 23;13:773. Volunteering also positively affects self-confidence, self-esteem, and general wellbeing.
4. Breathe the right scents.
We know that breathing techniques can help us relax. But what we breathe might be just as important as how we breathe. While the benefits of aromatherapy are debated, research suggests that citrus scents—orange essential oil in particular—can help slash stress and anxiety, and getting a whiff of rosemary may . Jafarzadeh, M., Arman, S., Pour, FF. Department of Pediatric Dentistry and Torabinezad Dental Research Center, Iran. Advanced Biomedical Research, 2013 Mar 6;2:10 . Sergeeva, OA, Kletke, O., Kragler, A., et al. Lehrstuhl fu Zellphysiologie, Ruh-Uniersitat, Germany. The Journal of Biological Chemistry, 2010 Jul 30;285(31):23985-93.
5. Stress less.
By now, we all know that stress is really bad for our health. Research suggests that stress may be contagious, and the more stressed we think we are, the worse it might be for our heart health . Richardson, S., Shaffer, JA, Falzon, L., et al. College of Physicians and Surgeons, Columbia University Medical Center. The American Journal of Cardiology, 2012 Dec 15;110(12):1711-6. But between work, relationships, family, and whatever else life throws at us, it’s difficult not to succumb to it. Use these strategies, which range from drinking tea to practicing progressive relaxation, to keep the stress monster at bay.
6. Be mindful.
—without judging how we feel and what we think—can be both a liberating and healthy practice. Studies show that getting in-tune with ourselves through mindfulness , helps us see ourselves in a , and may even help . Mrazek, MD, Franklin, MS, Phillips, DT, et al. Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences, University of California. Psychological Science, 2013 May;24(5):776-81.
7. Be happy!
We all know that happiness feels good, but it’s also . Research suggests that feeling happy may even , including Fredrickson, B.L., Grewen, K.M., Coffey, K.A., et al. University of California, Los Angeles, Los Angeles, CA. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 2013 August 13; 110(33): 13684–13689 Steptoe, A., Wardle, J., Marmot, M. International Centre for Health and Society, Department of Epidemiology and Public Health, University College London, London, United Kingdom. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 2005 May 3; 102(18): 6508–6512. But being happy is easier said than done, right? Turns out there’s actually a simple way to feel more upbeat: Just !
Meditation is proof that it doesn’t take a ton of time to do a mind and body good. Just a few minutes of quieting your mind can help relieve stress Demystifying mindfulness. Lawson, K. Department of Family Medicine and Community Health, Center for Spirituality and Healing, University of Minnesota. Minnesota Medicine, 2011; 94(1): 37-39 Effect of meditation on stress-induced changes in cognitive functions. Mohan, A., Sharma, R., Bijlani, R.L., Department of Physiology, All India Institute of Medical Sciences. Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine, 2011; 17(3): 207-212 A randomized, controlled trial of meditation for work stress, anxiety and depressed mood in full-time workers. Manocha R., Black D., Sarris J., et al. Sydney Medical School, St Leonards, Australia. Evidence Based Complimentary and Alternative Medicine. 2011. Other benefits include a and emotional stability, and some research suggests that meditating could even keep winter illness at bay . Desbordes, G., Negi, LT, Pace, TW, et al. Athinoula A. Martinos Center for Biomedical Imaging, Massachusetts General Hospital, Boston, MA. Frontiers in Human Neuroscience, 2012 Nov 1;6:292. The best part? Its benefits continue even when we’re not meditating—consider it the gift (to yourself) that keeps on giving. Sneak some meditation into day-to-day life with these 10 awesome techniques.
9. Dance around.
Shaking your booty doesn’t just make for a fit physique. It may also improve both mood and body image, lead to a better outlook, is associated with a , and even Muller-Pinget, S., Carrard, I., Ybarra, J. Service of Therapeutic Education for Chronic Diseases, WHO Collaborating Centre, Department of Community Medicine, University Hospitals of Geneva, Geneva, Switzerland. Patient Education and Counseling, 2012 Dec;89(3):525-8.. Consider this your cue for a silly impromptu dance party.
10. Turn up the tunes.
If you’ve ever noticed that certain songs bring a smile to your face, you’re not alone. As it turns out, science has taken note, too. Research shows that listening to music makes already positive emotions , and upbeat music in particular can do . Plus, jamming out can also improve heart health . Miller, M., Mangano, CC, Beach, V., et al. Division of Cardiology, University of Maryland Medical Center. Psychosomatic Medicine, 2010 May;72(4):354-6.
11. Eat more fruits and veggies.
Adding more fruits and veggies to our plate is a great way to practice self-care all throughout the day. Research shows that eating while noshing on peppers prevents Parkinson’s . Nielsen, SS, Franklin, GM, Longstreth, WT, et al. Departments of Environmental and Occupational Health Sciences, University of Washington. Annals of Neurology, 2013 Sep;74(3):472-7. And in case we needed another reason to load up on nature’s goodness, filling up on seven portions of fruits and veggies per day might .
12. Swear it off.
Though a potty mouth isn’t appropriate in a lot of scenarios (work… church… on a date… you get the picture), dropping an F-bomb might be an easy way to blow off some steam. Research also shows swearing can reduce physical pain, and may even Stephens, R., Umland, C. School of Psychology, Keele University, Staffordshire, United Kingdom. Journal of Pain, 2011 Dec;12(12):1274-81. But, as they say, timing is everything—so be sure to filter your expletives to avoid adding embarrassment to stress.
13. Indulge in some retail therapy.
Shopaholics, rejoice! Hitting the mall can help ease mild depression and make us more confident, according to . Another study suggests that . Science aside, treating yourself to something shiny, special, and new (it doesn’t have to be expensive!) is a pretty surefire way to put a smile on your face.
14. Get it on.
There are tons of awesome things about sex, even apart from the way it makes us feel. Getting busy can boost the immune system . Charnetski, CJ and Brennan, FX. Department of Psychology, Wilkes University. Psychological Reports, 2004 Jun;94(3 Pt 1:839-44)). Help to reduce stress, and may even relieve migraine pain—and that’s just to name a few of its health benefits . Brody, S. Division of Psychology, School of Social Sciences, University of Paisley, Scotland. Biological Psychology, 2006 Feb;71(2):214-22 . Hambach, A., Evers, S., Summ, O., et al. Department of Neurology, University of Munster. Cephalalgia: an international journal of headache, 2013 Apr;33(6):384-9.
15. Become a bookworm.
Contrary to what some middle school bullies believe, reading is cool. Plus, it’s actually really good for our health. that reading on a regular basis keeps the mind sharp as it ages, and reading fiction in particular makes for more creativity and a . Cracking open a book may also and make us more empathic . Bal PM, Veltkamp M. Department of Management & Organization, VU University Amsterdam, Amsterdam, The Netherlands. PLoS One. 2013; 8(1):e55341.
16. Laugh out loud.
There’s a reason people say laughter is “the best medicine”: Chuckling and giggling benefit our , especially when combined with exercise Hirosaki, M., Ohira, T., Kajiura, M., et al. Kyoto University, Kyoto, Japan. Geriatrics & Gerontology International, 2013 Jan;13(1):152-60. Giving into a case of the funnies can , while getting goofy with other people can help us and foster our relationships. Your plan of action: Watch a funny movie or a comedy on television—those reruns of How I Met Your Mother may actually be Sugawara, J., Tarumi, T., Tanaka, H. National Institute of Advanced Industrial Science and Technology, Tsukaba, Ibaraki, Japan. American Journal of Cardiology, 2010 Sep 15;106(6):856-9.
17. Look at something cute.
Instant mood booster: looking at pictures of baby animals. Thanks to , that’s incredibly easy (Just take a look at —it’s chock-full of super cute furry friends.). Plus, browsing through these photos may even help you when you’re on the job. Research suggests it may boost your productivity at work . Nittono, H., Fukushima, M., Yano, A., et al. Graduate School of Integrated Arts and Sciences, Hiroshima University, Higashi-Hiroshima, Hiroshima, Japan. PLoS One 2012;7(9):e46362. Just, uh, don’t let the boss catch you.
18. Get enough Zzz's.
There tons of things that can sabotage our sleep, whether it’s a late night at the office, a wild night with friends, or just catching up on Scandal. The problem is, skimping on shut-eye can hurt job productivity, make us choose to eat larger portions, and may lead to diseases like heart disease and diabetes. Prioritize snooze time for a healthier, happier you—even if it’s just a quick cat nap during your lunch break.
Some researchers believe that and bring us down. On the flip side, sorting through and purging unorganized papers, clothes, knickknacks, or whatever else is crowding our lives may help us , cheerful, and .
20. Pound the pavement.
Not only does it torch calories, but running is a mood-booster that can help reduce anxiety . Broman-Fulks JJ, Berman ME, Rabian BA, Webster MJ. Department of Psychology, The University of Southern Mississippi, Hattiesburg, MS, USA. Behavior Research and Therapy. 2004 February;42(2):125-36. Long-distance running in particular may even provide . Exercise in general is linked to decreasing symptoms of depression, so lace up your sneakers the next time you need a mood lift Craft, L.L., Perna, F.M. Division of Psychiatry, Boston University School of Medicine, Boston, MA. Primary Care Companion to The Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, 2004; 6(3): 104–111.
21. Indulge in a massage.
Set aside some time to experience the complete and total bliss of a massage. It soothes both the mind and muscles, improves sleep quality, and reduces stress . Labrique-Walusis, F., Keister, K.J., Russel, A.C. Miami Valley Hospital, Dayton, OH, USA. Orthopaedic Nursing, 2010 Jul-Aug;29(4):254-7; quiz 258-9..
Whether you’re the big spoon or little spoon, cuddling is good for you. Studies show that physical and that boosts happiness.
23. Get your Om on.
It comes as no surprise that yoga is a healthy practice. It helps , stress, and depression, all while boosting energy levels and improving our overall sense of well-being. Don’t think you have to commit to a full-length yoga class to reap its health benefits. Just 20 minutes on the mat and boosts the brain . Pontifex, M.B., Hillman, C.H., Fernhall, B., et al. Department of Kinesiology and Community Health, University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, IL. Medicine and Science in Sports Exercise, 2009 Apr;41(4):927-34 . Brisswalkter, J., Collardeau, M., Rene, A. Laboratory of Ergonomics and Sport Performance, University of Toulon-Var, La Garde, France. Sports Medicine, 2002;32(9):555-66. Try these restorative yoga poses to erase any built-up tension.
These days, it feels like everyone’s glued to a phone, laptop, or both at the same time. Deliberately taking a break from social media, e-mail, blogging, and so on can help us recharge and gives our brain the downtime it needs to .
25. Get out of town.
When it comes to taking vacation, don’t do a lot of it. But skipping out on time away from the 9-to-5 does more harm than good: Studies show that skipping the family vacay is associated with a in both men and women Gump, B.B., Matthews, K.A., Department of Psychology, State University of New York, Oswego, NY. Psychosomatic Medicine, 2000 Sep-Oct;62(5):608-12.. Whether booking a trip to an exotic location or going somewhere nearby, time away from work can help , and being exposed to a new location or experience may . Plus, everyone deserves a break!